Goal Setting

How do you set your goals?

Do you write them down? Say them out loud? Or just think about them in your head?

There’s no right or wrong answer to this — but there is a thing that I’m looking for and that’s staying committed to my goals.

So, how do you do that?

I’d like to think that you kind of have to become obsessed with your goals. What I mean by that is you literally have to live, breathe and think about your goals. I’ve taken classes on goal setting and I’m still struggling to this day on staying committed. But if I’m honest, what I’ve noticed is that if I don’t stay committed I get further away from my goals. Real talk. So I’m trying a few things right now to help me keep and stay on track. A few were suggested by my mentor and others are what I’ve seen or heard from very successful people.. So here they are:

  • Work on your goals ever. single. day.
  • Write them down, take five minutes to read them and let it marinate.
  • Chip off a little bit at a time. You won’t be able to accomplish every single thing on your goal list — but if you break it up into pieces.. it works.
  • Lastly, set yourself little reminders. I like using Google Calendar and having little alerts pop up on my phone. I also like post it notes.. I saw a friend use it for weight loss goals and I’ve seen the progress.

Now this doesn’t come easy to everybody but nothing worth having ever does.

With that being said, go after your goals and don’t let it get you down. If you really want what your setting in your goals you’ll get it because you’ll put in the work and you’ll do it.

Alba Carol 

Keep Going

It’s the holidays. Thanksgiving just passed. And around this time of the year it’s cool to be a bit heavier. But if your goals are to have a rocking bod – and be healthy, it’s the little christmasthings that count. Like –

  • eating one piece of pie instead of two
  • one plate of Christmas dinner instead of two
  • maybe two pieces of Hershey kisses a day instead of five
  • one sugar Christmas cookie instead of two

You catch my drift. I love the Holidays. Actually I’m crazy about it. I love the food, I love the sweets, I love the Holiday music and I love the fact that it automatically makes you happy. That’s what the Holidays does to me. That’s what Christmas does to me. It’s hard to be upset when everything is just so jolly.

But what I want to say is that you don’t have to break out of your healthy eating habits or your health kick or your fitness regimen just because it’s the Holidays. Moderation is key.

Always. With that being said – Keep Going my friends 🙂

Inspired to Be More

Ever see signs like your supposed to be doing something else and then you ignore it. Or better yet, you keep looking for a sign to give you some sense of direction and it’s literally right there. But you keep ignoring it? I think that’s where I am right now. But it’s all my doing.

How is that?

williamBecause I’m thinking it. I keep thinking oh, I need a sign to let me know how I’m doing; but I’m so bad at deciphering signs I’ll never get it. That’s it. I’ll never get it. That kind of thinking will keep me exactly where I am right now. I realize that. I’ve known that. Sometimes I even think that my default way of thinking about anything is the negative first. I always put myself down and don’t give myself enough credit. But when it comes to anyone else I am their biggest fan.

I need to do better. I will do better. On Sunday, I feel like God gave me three signs. I passed them off a bit as just; ‘Yeah I know that’s a sign but what are you really saying?’ or ‘Yeah, I know – but I still don’t know what I’m supposed to do?’ I even told my live-in boyfriend about it (who I’ve been kind of hammering down daily with the ‘what am I supposed to do with my life questions’). Here’s the thing though, before I went to sleep I came across two blogs that spoke about manifestation. Positive manifestation and praying to God. It was like my other sign. Literally, I’m getting goosebumps writing about it. I read some of their most recent posts. Then I went to sleep. I woke up feeling refreshed and inspired to do more. Be a better version of myself.

Unconsciously, I’ve been letting those signs marinate in my head and I realize that I’m only hurting myself. I’ve only really dabbled consciously in the Law of Attraction but I understand that I’ve been doing it my whole life.


Image via Tumblr: SoulTherapyBlog

Now I’m going to try my hardest to manifest the life that I want. Starting with Loving my self. I tear up while writing this because for me it’s a big deal. I shouldn’t down my self ever. And yet I do it so much it’s become something normal. Which is why I am where I am right now. But that stops right now. I will work constantly to ‘smile’ more. I will tell myself everyday I am beautiful, I am strong, everything good happens to me. I am a great a person. Everyday I will read more about loving myself. Thinking positive thought and just being happy.

Even if something at work pissed me off. I’ll force a smile. I’ll change the wave of whatever I would normally feel. I know it’s not going to be easy but really, I’m convinced it can be. I just need to believe it.


Because I will it.

Featured Image via cloudimind on Tumblr.

Hair Dilemma

I do not play about my hair. If I get it done; I want it to last for more than eight hours at least. Meaning, I want people to see how good my hair looks.

Sometimes, though, it’s hard to keep a hair style when your constantly working out.


How I normally wear my hair. Pic via Pintrest 

Every time I get my hair done, I know the moment I workout – my hair will start curling up at the edges and it completely messes up the style. It’s because I’m natural which means sometimes my real hair will curl up against the ‘straight extensions’. So the problem is – that right after I workout my natural curly hairs start taking their form and curling up.

A simple solution for this is wrapping my hair. Which means covering my real hair with some kind of scarf while I workout. Not only is that uncomfortable while working out, but it doesn’t guarantee that my hair will not curl up. I think the best solution would be to wear my hair in braids for a while. But for what I’m trying to do out side of work, I need to actually have my hair look somewhat straightened.

So you see my dilemma here. My dilemma is so real that I haven’t been to the gym all week because I just wanted to preserve the ‘do’ for as long as possible. But that ends today because I plan on getting a nice good sweat at the gym. It’s very possible that my hair will look a hot ass mess. But I’ll work on that to try to make it look somewhat presentable for work.


This is the kind of hairstyle that will last when you workout Pic via Pinterest 

Really, I just need to find some kind of balance. Perhaps when I do get my hair done initially not work out for the first three days and then go hard for the next four and keep that kind of schedule?

We’ll see.

Does anyone else out there have this problem? Want to preserve the hairstyle but the gym doesn’t really let you. I tell you what. I follow Massy daily and her hair always looks good every time she works out. Now, I’m not sure if she’s getting her hair done everyday or what she’s doing to keep her hair looking right. But I believe she’s natural like me. The only difference is, she has short hair and wears it short but I also think she has a different texture so – that’s another blog where I will break down hair.

So how do you guys cope with this?

Is it even a problem?

For Massy’s page see below.

Featured image of black excellence is by Jaime Cofrade via Tumblr.

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Just Doing

I’m still here.

I’m having a few issues in life, personal life. You know, relationships and what not. I’m trying to navigate through it right now. But I am happy to say I have been in the gym two days in a row. Monday night. Tuesday morning. Both successful day.

The one thing that I can right now is that the gym does help take your mind off of shit like relationships. So there’s that.

Keep going to the gym. It helps.

❤ Carol. 

I Came To Win

Today, I woke up with those thoughts in my head.

I. Came. To. Win.

It’s Friday, but that doesn’t mean it’s another day to slack off. On the contrary, I want to go even harder than I went yesterday. Meaning, I want to do more. I want to make the most out of my day. The most out of my day at the gym, the most out of my day while I’m working, the most out of just everything in life.

I’m taking today as a competition. You see, I’ve already been to the gym five days in a row this week. And usually, that would be enough. But I’m trying to be better than enough. Better than average. So I’m heading to the gym today for the sixth day in a row. I’m trying to look good and live my best life now!


Allyson Felix at the Rio 2016 Olympic Games. One of my favorite runners. 

I am already seeing progress as well. For instance, I lost a good 3.5 pounds. I say good because I’ve slowly been changing eating habits (to make eating healthy more of a habit). No supplements, no get thinner faster stuff — no nothing like that. Just working hard. I want to prove to  myself that I can do it. Because I’m a winner.

Reading back on that last line, it reminds me of motivational speakers. But that’s why they’re so good at what they do. They motivate. They help people get to that next level and realize they’re true potential.

Take a look at one of my favorite speakers Eric Thomas below I listen to him everyday while I’m lifting weights at the gym. And you know what? It helps me finish my workout like I’m supposed to. Beast mode baby, all day!

If you’re going to the gym go in #beastmode #killit !

P.S. Today is leg day 😉



No matter how hard life gets, whether it be a sucky relationship, a bad day at work, persevere. You must. You must know that you matter. You were put on this earth for a


One of the iconic scenes in Rocky – a character who always fought through the toughest situations.

greater purpose. You were meant to be a shining light in this world full of beautiful things.


You are a beautiful person in and out who can handle anything that comes their way. You have to believe it. You have to. You have to feel it in your heart. You have to feel it in your soul. The fact that you are breathing means you can make it through anything.

You are magic. You are a conqueror. You are a fighter. You can do anything that comes your way. You got this. You got you.

you can.

❤ Carol

P.S. 5th day in a row at the gym today. I’m already down 5 pounds. Which means I’m eating right too!

Love Pains

This is more of a mental health kind of post.

Sometimes love hurts. But even when it hurts we stay. Why is that?

Why do we stay in something that clearly makes us unhappy?

Why do we keep putting up with issues that you would tell your friend “girl, you deserve better?” I wish I knew the answer to that. Often, I feel like I’m just in this same space where nothing changes. And often times it’s my fault.

I can’t even fully express how I feel over fear of what I might write. Or what it could mean. I just know what’s in my heart. And I know that at this instance, at this very moment, my heart hurts. In my mind, I know what I need to do. I know what I should do. Or what I think I should. But it pains me.

OCT: Woman Crush Wednesday

Every month I want to dedicate a Wednesday blog to a woman who inspires me to be great, do better and give it my all.

Today it’s Viola Davis.

You might know her from  the hit TV show “How to Get Away With Murder” or the hit


Image via Bet

play by August Wilson “Fences,” She also starred in the 2016 movie with Denzel Washington (she won a Best Supporting Actress Oscar for that). Aside from that, she has many other films and TV shows under her belt. Not to mention a ton of awards like an Academy Award, a Tony Award and an Emmy Award. How cool is that.

I love everything about her. She’s an inspiration to me because of her work. Every time you see her on-screen, you don’t see her you see a character she’s bringing to life. And you can tell she gives it 110%. She’s a storyteller. She’s someone who can take you to another place with her acting. She’s absolutely phenomenal.


Viola Davis photographed by Sam Jones for Entertainment Weekly – Image via Tumblr

She also had many first for a Black woman. For instance in 2015 she became the first black woman to win a Primetime Emmy Award for Outstanding Lead Actress in a Drama Series. And that speech. Mindblown. You can check it out below.

Let’s not forget how amazing she looks to be in her 50s. Look at her arms. Look at her shape. She’s glowing every time you see her. Yes, of course there is makeup. But that happiness she exudes – you can’t paint that on your face.

Viola Davis inspires me to work harder for my dreams. She’s an example of someone who’s broken through barriers and achieved her goals. Doesn’t matter the age, doesn’t matter how long it took. She did it. And I’m going to apply that same sentiment to my life.

❤ Carol.


Keep Going

You ever heard that song “Don’t stop, get it get it!” It’s a great song to workout and dance to. But it’s what I want to live by. I want to keep on going and get all the good that’s coming my way.

So what I want to do with this blog is simply motivate you just a bit more –

Feeling tired and you don’t want to go to the gym –

That’s okay, take a walk around the block, park further when you head to the grocery store, take the stairs at work. Do a little something and keep going 😉

Or let’s say your in the middle of a workout and you just don’t want to continue (happens to me all the time) That’s okay. Slow down the cardio or shorten the amount of reps. But whatever you do keep going. tumblr_o2pnkdaTme1qjl5rvo1_500


Only you can do what you do. Only you can wake up, shower, go to work and handle your business. Only you can make the changes you want in your life. Only you can decide whether your going to have a good day or a great day. No one but you can help you keep going and reach for your goals. The power to do what ever you want is within you. Remember that. I also need to remind myself to remember that. Because we humans are amazing beings that can do anything we put our minds too.

We are just that awesome.

P.S. Today was my 3rd day in the gym – did cardio and back. I feel good about it cause I woke up early to do it.

So keep going.

❤ Carol.